The term anger management commonly refers to a system of techniques and exercises that we use to control our anger. But first we have to admit to ourselves that we have a problem. This may be the hardest thing for us to do. This could be even more difficult than actually controlling our anger. Once we are willing to admit we have a problem, the rest is a matter of discipline. There are many stages of emotional things we have to confront ourselves with, that sets us off and we need to find out what they are. Often we need to seek help to be able to find what triggers our anger. We should confide in our spouse if we have one, or a brother or sister, someone who we feel comfortable with, that this has become a problem. Most of us find it difficult to admit that we have a problem controlling our anger. This is more prominent with the male, not as much the female. Most men have been raised to think that they are macho. They have been stereotyped as masculine but if the truth were known it takes more of a man to admit that they are wrong. They will gain more respect if they would only show that they care and love others especially those close to them.
When they feel anger coming on all they have to do is remember that God is on their side. After all, did Jesus Christ come to earth to hang on a cross to pay for our sins? The sins that we all have committed and the ones that we will be committing in the future have been taken to the grave and buried there. Yes, we are no longer under the law but are under grace when we ask Jesus to take control of our lives. We have then been born again, our soul has been changed and we no longer are a slave to sin. We still have to live in the fleshly bodies until the day of Jesus.

If we have to voice our opinion on every subject it appears like we think we have arrived and have no sin. No one has arrived for we all fall short of the glory of God. Do we think other people care what we think any way? I think not. When was the last time someone sincerely asked what we thought about something anyway. Let us look for a place in what others say and/or do that we can agree on rather than the things we take exception to. Remember God has said to love every one. He did not say that we have to like what they say or do, in fact when I hear someone that speaks against what God has said, my human side wants to attack them. But I no longer have to listen to the things of the devil. If your anger is to the point that you feel you will explode, try some deep breathing exercises. Hold in the air and expel it slowly a few times - that may help. Meditation is always good. Think of what Jesus has said. Maybe the words of your favorite verse or a song like He walks with me and talks with me and tells me I am His own. This should chase away evil from your mind. Whatever you do to control your anger will enhance your life. Both your spirit and your physical health should improve. Get a grip on yourself, think positive! Be optimistic. Every one of us can win this battle if we just trust in Jesus.

Anger is shown by the actions that come from the individual who displays an excitable outburst or explosions of extreme annoyance from within their inner self. This shows that they do not have a handle on their emotions. Many individuals have not conquered their own inner person’s selfishness, greed or self-righteousness. How could anyone dare disrupt our life with attacks on us or ours? The fact that someone or something has dared to disrupt our comfort zone is not something we can tolerate. Anger can cause any one to find displeasure in the eyes of God. Furthermore, in Galatians 5:19-20 we find that when we follow our own wrong feelings our lives will produce evil results and impure thoughts which will display our eagerness for lustful pleasure, 20 we may embrace idolatry, evil spirits encouraging the activity of demons, hatred, fighting, jealousy and anger. (JB) Constant use of physical or mental energy will cause a strain on our system to the point of frustration. Then often the result of our frustration breeds anger and hate. This can also be manifested in our outward display of our inward feelings showing animosity toward everyone.

It is understandable that we want the best that we can obtain for our loved ones and ourselves. When it appears that we are being accosted from any source we may lose control. When this happens the results often are anger or fear and confusion may set in. One of the concerns that we should consider is that anger is within ourselves and is not caused by outside influences. The complaints and criticisms we receive from external sources can often be blessings. This can be an opportunity to help others to control their anger.
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Most of us have the feelings that everyone else is wrong except those in our own little group. This will bring on the wrong doctrine. Is it not true that if others agree with us they are accepted and if they do not agree then they do not really understand or they are not cognoscente of the facts? Is it that we in our own self-admiration think we know it all? All we are doing is falsifying the fact that we are really phony, thinking we have all the answers. Is it possible we are suffering from stinking thinking? All of us will experience anger from time to time. Anger does not make for a comfortable atmosphere. Anger comes from within and when we cause it to come to the forefront we all should do whatever it takes to calm ourselves and/or our family so that there will be harmony and peace among us. It is not something that we can control with ease. It is not hard to understand that we need not be provoked by anything unless we want to be. Some day we will all be called to answer for everything we have done and said here on earth with our life. It is not the earthly gains that will bring us true comfort. Comfort is only found in the Son of God who is Jesus Christ.

All we need to do is turn to God and ask for His grace which we can only find through His Son the Christ whom God sent to earth to be the sacrificial lamb. Jesus is the one who freely gave of His life for our past, present and future sins. He hung from that cross on Calvary’s hill, His clothing torn from His body He was then beaten so bad that it was difficult to recognize Him (according to the account of those who were there at the time.) What then is it that we need to do to find peace within ourselves? The answer is found in Jesus where in John 14:6 Jesus said, I am the way the truth and the life. No one can reach the Father except by me. Keeping in mind that we also need to follow what he has told us about how we should be seen in the eyes of everyone. This is not to say that this should be an outward appearance but a reflection of our inner self.

Hebrews 10:26, this verse says that if anyone would sin deliberately by rejecting Jesus, after knowing the truth of forgiveness given freely by Him, they will not have their sins covered by His blood. (JB) The rebellions harbored in our hearts condemn us. The scripture goes on in Matthew 16:26-27 that we are told, what profit would there be if we would possess the entire world and lose the gift from God of everlasting life? Can anything be compared to the value of eternal life? Jesus the Son of man will come within the awesome splendor of almighty God. He will judge each and every person according to his or her deeds. (JB) We must be born again, not of water as from the womb of our mother but by the confession of our sins, and asking Jesus to come into our life and take care of it, and us. We can get nowhere on our own. God provides even the air we breathe. When God made the heavens and the earth he made provisions for us to flourish and grow in our faith. This earth, if you will, is our proving ground. We will find the truth through Jesus, by succumbing to His teachings. The choice is ours to follow the path of righteousness offered by God, or the path of lies and destruction offered by Satan. The trappings of the world are set up by the deceiver of all deceivers Satan. Beware do not fall for the sins that will be laid out in front of us, these stumbling blocks are real and can be avoided by putting on the full armor of God, which is His word learn it and hold it in your heart.

Do not miss out on the blessings that God so generously wants to give us all when we obey His word. Read 1st Corinthians 13:4-8 this may be one of the hardest tasks that is asked of you, because of the sin nature that we have and because of Adam’s weakness when he gave sin the control of his life by his disobedience to God’s word. We all now have been born into sin because of that fatal day in the Garden of Eden. Satan is known as the father of deception, the one that wants us all to believe that we do not have to do anything but enjoy the moment. There is a story that I have heard. Satan was approached by his followers who asked him, should we tell the people of the earth that there is no God? Satan answered saying, never tell them that God does not exist. Instead tell them there is no hurry; take your time to embrace God.

Enjoy living in the decadence of the world as God has said sin would be pleasurable for a season.
No one is aware of the hour, day, time or year that our soul will be taken from us. Have we not embraced Jesus Christ as our personal Savior? If not, we then have chosen to spend eternity in Hell.
 

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Jim Brown